Hello, I’m Dr. Marie Prince, Consultant Clinical Psychologist. Next week is Men’s Mental Health Week and I want to focus on Fertility. I am delighted to see more men seeking therapy to navigate the often challenging fertility journey. I hope that this trend indicates a shift in how men approach their mental health, particularly in relation their fertility: an issue that has long been considered a female issue.
Breaking the Silence around Men’s Fertility
Discussions about fertility predominantly focus on women, often sidelining the significant emotional impact on men. Men face their own unique set of challenges when it comes to fertility, including societal expectations, feelings of inadequacy, and the pressure to provide solutions. These issues can be compounded by the stigma around men expressing vulnerability and seeking help.
Therapy for Men
Therapy provides a safe space for men to express their fears, anxieties, and frustrations regarding fertility. It helps them to understand and process their emotions, and equips them with coping strategies to manage stress and maintain healthy relationships. By seeking therapy, men can gain a better understanding of their own mental health and the impact of their fertility journey.
This year I have seen more men come to therapy than in the last five years combined. I have also sign posted a lot of men to an excellent male therapist and coach (who happens to be my husband!). I understand this, do what makes accessing support as easy as possible. A positive outcome from therapy is largely based on the relationship you have with your therapist, so if you have a preference for a male or a female therapist, then make that choice.
Men’s Fertility & Mental Health
Men navigating a fertility journey may experience a range of mental health challenges, including:
Anxiety and Depression: The uncertainty and waiting inherent in fertility treatments can lead to heightened anxiety and depressive symptoms.
Low Self-Esteem: Feelings of inadequacy or failure can arise if there are difficulties in conceiving, impacting self-worth.
Relationship Stress: The emotional toll of fertility issues can strain relationships, making effective communication, having fun and mutual support crucial.
Identity and Masculinity: Societal norms often link masculinity with fertility, causing men to question their identity and worth when faced with fertility problems.
Moving Forward
As we highlight Men’s Mental Health Week, let’s continue to encourage and support men in seeking the help they need. Reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. If you or someone you know is struggling with fertility-related issues, don’t hesitate to get in touch to discuss: marie@thefertilitypsychologist.co.uk. You will also find great support through online groups such as Fertility Network UK.
If you prefer a self-help option download my free Essential Fertility Toolkit or read more here.
Look after yourself, Marie
